While I don't browse Indian blogs too often these days, from time to time I do find myself still checking in on Sharell's blog, Diary of a White Indian Housewife. It was Sharell's blog that inspired me to start My Indian Love back in 2009, as I'm sure is the case for many other Indian bloggers out there. As far as I know, she was the first, and still is the best resource on all things Indian from a "westerner's" perspective.
So I was shocked to check in today and see her latest post, To Blog or Not to Blog. By the sounds of it, and by the fact the post is dated almost a month ago, I assume she's chosen the latter. Her reasons echo my own decision to ultimately take a step back from My Indian Love:
In short, the reason why I haven’t updated my blog is because I’m not inspired to. My blog was becoming burdensome, demanding, and intrusive. While I’ve been fortunate to have interacted with some wonderful people here (some of whom have become my good friends in real life) and learned a lot, I grew tired of publicly sharing so much of my life and my thoughts, answering questions, and dealing with Internet trolls. What’s more, I grew tired of being defined as a “blogger”, “expat”, or someone in a “cross-cultural relationship”. More and more, I felt like my life wasn’t my own anymore. It was wearing me down.
Reading her post reminded me of the many days and nights I spent in emotional turmoil over nasty comments from Internet trolls and yes, the burdensome demand of keeping up with it all - moderating, deleting, responding. I clearly remember MIM soothing me during the times I was an emotional wreck - which only began happening more frequently as the blog grew in popularity. I even started to question if the blog was having a negative effect on our relationship. But during these times I also had so many supporters, encourages, and uplifters that helped get me through.
Sharell ends her post by writing:
Quite simply, I feel freer, less stressed, and more relaxed now that I’m having time away from my blog.
I can only nod in recognition. While I immensely enjoyed My Indian Love, I was also relieved to walk away from it, now blogging only ever so often when the feeling moves me. (And of course, by no longer having an Indian Love there's not much left to discuss...) But I'm happy to keep it active for those who may stumble upon it and find what their looking for.
I commend Sharell for taking control of her life and emotions and walking away when she felt she needed to. But I do hope she continues to blog and keep WIH active in the long run, as it is such a great resource to many and I myself enjoy keeping up on her life in India.