Hi! I'm MDG.
I am an American woman in love with an Indian man. I moved to Bangalore, India July 25th, 2010, and am happy to be sharing my experiences with you!
Please don't hesitate to comment or contact me directly. I love both! 
It Happens to Indian Women Too…
I’ve had a lot of comments or messages from white women who fell in love with an Indian man only to have him run off and get married behind their backs. I usually assume the Indian men do really like their girlfriends but in the end just can’t bear their family’s disapproval so they marry Indian women. Well, I was shocked to hear it happened to a friend of mine as well – and she is Indian. Her Indian boyfriend went home for a usual college summer break visit – and got married. He first told her it “just happened” and he had no control over the situation, but it soon came out that he actually knew all along.
Why????? I simply don’t get it.
MDG, I’ve also heard of guys and gals alike doing that, dating someone and then “Surprise! I got married to someone else in India!” I don’t know what happens for people to make those decisions, with no regards to breaking hearts. As for the comments from other white gals whose Indian boyfriends ran off and got married, I know that does happen. Look at the pressure desi parents put on them. That doesn’t mean it happens to everyone, though. My husband stuck with me regardless of his crazy parents. I think most parents eventually come around, mine are just a little more stubborn
It’s up to the boy to decide whether his parents will control him or whether he will make his own decisions. There are lots of other American girls out there married to Muslim Indian boys and are very happy with the union. We can never really predict the decisions people will make, just hope they make a positive one 
A’s Indian, female coworker was just recently engaged (arranged) and broke it off. The man lied about who his family was, what kind of money he had and even his job, it was clear that he was just getting engaged in order to get “laid.” Luckily she didn’t go all the way but she was intimate with him. She had never been with a man before that, so sad.
It happens to women period.
In some cases, the parental pressure is too much to handle.. ni some cases the boys perceive the girls to be good girl friend material but not wife material. Or in some cases, people grow out in relationships.. the guys cannot confront the girl.. and then marry out of “pressure”.. mind you the last case happens a lot with girls getting married off to avoid boys as well.
I knew of a Indian-Amrican (born and braught up in US) dating an Indian guy for three years. Only to find out, he was already married and had a wife in India. SHe was miserable.. and too much in love.. and was actually thinking of “working” it out.. Luckily she got practical and realistic and broke up.
Relationships are complicated.. simple
It is all about having a spine.
I admit, “spine” was not the first word that came into my mind, but you do get the drift, don’t you?
Unfortunately, most Indian men and women fall into that category. They may not all actually play the sort of games described in the posts above but a lot of them lack the courage to speak up to their parents. It is all about “losing face” and “what would people think?”.
It is really sad to know that such things happen…I am sure that marrying because you are afraid to say you love someone else, out of your culture or not, doesn’t make anyone happy…maybe at first parents might be happy but after time when they see how miserable their child has become…and how his/her life is…they are not happy anymore…why can’t people see what has happened to them and avoid futures mistakes?? Respect the others is really important. I really hope this girl overcome that situation and find someone who will really love and fight for her.
i think there is still a double standard. and even though a lot of desis (both pak and indian) are experiencing a sexual revolution, my sense is that some of the men, at least, still have a more conservative expectation of the woman they marry (or are bombarded by their parents with horrible insults about the girlfriend being ‘unacceptable’ since they assume the girl has been sexually active while dating their son). my husband’s cousin was also caught in this trap. she is pakistani… dated a guy for several years, then he came back from a trip to pakistan with a wife. broke her heart and messed her up for years….
The exactly same thing happend to me. I was engaged to my ex… we had been together for almost four years. After he came back from india he spent christmas dinner with my family and i and then had the nerve to be intimate with me and then after told me he got married. I broke his nose.
Kimberly to those of you who have gone through such an ‘experience’ its still easy as the bridge has not been crossed as yet, if the guy has woken up / been made to realize early enough by family…..its good riddance for the poor girl.
imagine the consequences when after marriage a man decides the girl is not good enough ……http://in.answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20080711222020AACElFj