 Hi! I'm MDG.
I am an American woman in love with an Indian man. I moved to Bangalore, India July 25th, 2010, and am happy to be sharing my experiences with you!
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Indian Cultural Night Was Great!And I didn’t feel uncomfortable in my outfit at all. In fact, I felt great! And when MIM said afterward, “You were the most beautiful girl there”, I melted. Even so, it didn’t stop me from throwing on jeans and a t-shirt as soon as we got home! Here are some pics from the night, enjoy, and thanks to everyone who lent some good advice!
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@ MDG : In USA and EU the divorce rate is approximately 52-68% . In the US women file 90% of the divorce cases and the main reason for divorce is boredom with existing partner . An American woman probably lies to her female friends, about her husband’s inefficiencies but the fact is she has just got bored and wants to back out .
In India we have very strong family values and that is why our divorce rate is so low ( Only 1.1%) . Also many of the marriages in India are arranged by the family elders . In India people respect marriage , unlike the disposable American society . In India you can’t just walk out of marriage . Indians have to much pressure to run family properly and most of them don’t believe in second marriage. Most marital disputes are handled by the bride and groom families and I would assume if someone gets a divorce it would bring shame and ignominy on the family .
The Westerners could learn a lot from Indians in this regard .
@ MIM : Body odour is not something new and exclusive only to India . During my school and college days even I had to face the same old problem of body odour . ( Some of my classmates used to sweat like pigs and emit an offensive odour ) .
India is a hot tropical country , so it is natural for people to sweat / prespire a lot . Also our public transport ( Local Trains , Buses etc .) is not Air-Conditioned which further aggravates the problems . Many people in India travel on two wheelers and many of the car owners cannot afford an Air Conditioned vehicle . So this probably explains the problem .
There are some tips for preventing body odour ( If you suffer from the same )
1) Always take a bath daily and apply deo on your underarms
2) In summers only wear cotton ( pure cotton / 100% cotton ) garments and not the synthetic ones .
3) Avoid eating onion , garlic , eggs , meat , fish , mushrooms and all othe foods which give off a pungent odour .
4) During summers drink lots of water ( 8-10 glasses a day ) , fruit juices , lemonade ( Nimbu Pani ) and eat frsh fruits and salads .
@ MIM : In one of your posts you mentioned about the Internet problems that you had to face back home in Hyderabad . Which Internet connection were you using – Dial Up or Broadband ? Who was your ISP ( Internet service provider ) ? BSNL or TATA indicom internet connections are very slow , unreliable , prone to errors and have poor customer service records . I recommend you to use Airtel Broadband . Airtel Broadband offers you instant connectivity to the net , there is virtually no server downtime , download / upload speed is excellent , customer care service is also very good . Also Airtel Broadband is less prone to mechanical , network failures / errors .
While I agree that there are way too many divorces in the US and that marriage isn’t taken as seriously as it should, I think that you pointed out the major reason why there is lower divorce rate in India: “it would bring shame and ignominy on the family.” Don’t you think many women stay stuck in an Indian marriage because they are afraid what others will think of them if they were to leave? Also, aren’t they considered ‘damaged goods’ once divorced and it would be hard for them to remarry? Without remarrying, who would support them and perhaps their children? Seems to me women stay in marriages out of necessity in India. When that necessity goes away (and one day it will) there will be just as many divorces in India as are in the US. Of course, I am only repeating what I have heard about India so far. I am not the best person to answer this. I would be interested in hearing more opinions from Indians on this.
@G your argument is riddled with anti-female sentiment so I find it difficult to take you seriously. Simplifying a problem such as high divorce rate down to women being liers who get bored easily as compared to good, obedient Indian women is so full of female negative views. I am praying for whatever woman ends up with you, she will need much patience.
@jubeee : The real beauty of a woman lies in her ” Chastity ” . Beauty without modesty is like a ” violet ( Flower ) without scent ” . For a woman her ” World is her husband, her family, her children, and her home.” However modern or self dependent a woman becomes she should never abandon her family values .
Women in America and other western countries have forgotten their traditional family values and try to compete with men which is perhaps the main reason for high divorce rate in the western world .
In the western world if a woman is working , has some disposable earning , is not happy / gets bored with her partner ( even for some flimsy reasons ) she will care two hoots about what the societal / family norms are and file for divorce . ” Boredom ” is one of the main reasons for high divorce rate in the western world .
@ MDG : Ancient Hindu scriptures never mentioned about the concept of divorce . The earliest mention of divorce in Indian history can be contributed to the Islamic rulers of India . In most of the regional Indian languages you will not find an eqvilant term/ Word for divorce . Only Urdu – a muslim language has the mention of divorce . In Urdu language the word ” Talaq ” means divorce .
In rural India divorces are almost unheard of . Divorces are a new phenomenon mostly heard of in large ” Metropolitan ” Indian cities . But divorces even in so called big Indian cities ” Pale off ” in comparison to the western world . In India people who divorce ( divorcees ) are looked upon with disgust and contempt .
Divorce should be used only as a last resort if a woman wants to end an abusive relationship ( alholic , drug addict husband , physical abuse etc . )
No one is perfect in this world . Each one of us have some drawbacks / shortcomings . When you choose a life partner you have to learn to accept him / her ” warts and all “
@MIM : “Caste system? What in the world makes a Brahmin better than any other caste. What in the world a Syed is better than an Ansari? How do you differentiate one human from another on the basis of caste?”
Fair enough ! Even I don’t support / believe in the caste system . There is no scientific / logical basis for the segmentation of the society based on caste or other man made distinctions . All the castes / sects are man made distictions .
Religious scriptures like the Vedas etc . give the following reason / justification for the caste sustem .
1) The Brahman came from the mouth of the creator ( Brahma )
2) The Kshatriya ( warrior ) descended from his arms
3) The Vaishya ( Trader ) from his thighs
4) The Shudra from his feet .
Caste system is not unique only to India / Hinduism . All religions in the subcontinent whether Hindus , Muslims , Sikhs , Jains , Buddhists , Christians etc have some or the other elements of caste based division .
I asked my Muslim Friend ( a Shia ) that why is a Syed better than an Ansari . That friend of mine told me that Syed clan is the closest successor to the Prophet Mohammed . All othe clans Ansari , Quereshi etc. are converts to Islam . My Shia friend also told me that Shias are the true succesors of the Prophet Mohammed and that Ahmed was the long awaited Prophet . The institution of Prophethood would continue till the day of peril ( Qayamat ) .
A fractured caste based society exists even in our neighbouring country Pakistan . In Pakistan municipal sweepers / toilet cleaners are called as ” chooras ” or untouchables and not allowed to touch the kitchen utensils . A shopkeeper is called a ” Baniya ” in a derogatory way . Shias are not allowed to worship in sunni mosques and vice versa . There is wide spread regionalism , gender bias , sectarian violence and not to forget the persecution of religious minorities in Pakistan . All the above factors coupled with anti-India hatred have made Pakistan a hotbed of terrorism .
You look pretty in Salwar kurta. Did you have fun? I see a swami there and wonder what was his role there?
Hi Anjali! First of all I love your name! Thank you for the compliment. The swami gave a very nice speech and started off the night.
@ MIM : In your earlier posts you mentioned about the high prevalance of fairness creams in the Indian market . Indian men , in general prefer fair women to the dusky ones and there is nothing wrong in that ! I am a Hindu Brahmin , quite fair and tall , so it is natural for me to select a fair skinned woman as my bride .
Why do you think there is a huge market for fairness creams in India ? The answer is very simple . Every woman wants to look beautiful and attractive . In India we have such a cult for fairness that no woman wants to be called dark-skinned .
In USA there is a big market for ” Body Firming creams ” like Dove etc . Women in America want to reduce their cellulite and look attractive . Also many American women go in for body piercings , tattoo , silicone breast , butt implants etc . Why do you forget that ???
@ MIM : For your info , we never had the problem of HIV/AIDS in India until the arrival of the Hippies ( from America and Europe ) in the mid 1980s . The first HIV/AIDS case in India was reported in a Chennai prostitute who had sex with a White man . The first instance of HIV/AIDS was reported among homosexual/gay men of California , USA .
@ MIM : Many White women who come to India complain about the sexual harrasment ( Eve teasing , Molestation , Rape etc. ) meted out to them by Indian men . Do you know how immodestly some western women dress and provoke the repressed sexual fantasies of Indian men ! If a White woman roams around naked on beaches of Goa or Kerala she is likely to be sexually harassed .
@ MDG : Japan is a highly industrialised country with a high standard of living . Now according to your theory even Japan should have a very high divorce rate just like USA and European countries . But the fact is that Japan has a very low divorce rate , just 1.9% . How do you explain this phenomenon ( low divorce rate in Japan ) !
wish 2 move 2 india.. where touching n huging not common… v v honour a girl…i wanna touch the feet of my papa…n lantern festival called diwali……. woww…. naf ratri, holi.. kites festifal…. rahsa bandan.. rakhi… flowerday… aaaaahhhhhh greaatttttt
Wow! I came to this website looking for love, all I see is hate!
Its not easy for a western woman to live in India. Its almost anothet planet for them. I think many white woman have this fanstasy of India, well, lets say its an exotic fantasy. I personally love India, as I was born & raised there, but for a western woman to live there will be a mountain to climb!
@G Parthasarthy, Yaar the girl MDG is not bad looking
If it was me, I would marry her too. Get off her back man, she seems really sentimental & emotional. Shah Jahan created the Taj Mahal for his love, and she created “MyIndianlove”. Wow! I think I deserve for someone to create a website for me too, I am nice man too!! 
@GParthasarathy: We do appreciate you being rooted to the traditions and customs so much. But man you need to respect others opinions and observations too. If you want to give some lousy facts and figures, no matter how true they are, do it on your blog. Leave her alone. You made your point more than once. Stop cribbing about how America and it’s culture is. She already knows about it. Look in your own (our own) culture. You can’t really say ours’ is perfect. Remember every coin has two sides.There is only so much people can take. She wants to take the positives from both the cultures…..so chill out….. Take it easy