Indian Men Who Date American Women

Lately I've been hearing a lot about relationships between American women and Indian men not working out and I've been asked for advice or my opinions on the matter. Truthfully, I don't feel well equipped to answer such things. I met MIM very unexpectedly and simply got lucky I guess. I hadn't done any research online, I hadn't ever met anyone who dated an Indian, (come to think of it I had never even met an Indian before), and so I didn't know the general opinion of Indian men as significant others. Perhaps if I did know things beforehand, I would have given MIM a harder time, questioning what his long term plans were, wondering if there were alternative motives and such. To this day, he has never given me any reason to.

DSC_0288My experience with an Indian man has been amazing and I would recommend it to any girl. MIM isn't in any way abusive, doesn't cheat, lie, hang out at bars or cuss. (Well, besides a few choice Hindi words!) He has always been attentive, supportive, patient, and caring. It is the only relationship I have ever had where I feel completely comfortable being me. We are equals and best friends and so much alike - despite having such different backgrounds. Yes, I did have to get used to the fact his family would not know about me right away, but I had to bite my lip and understand to the best of my ability how his culture worked. In time, when he knew I was serious and sticking around, he opened up to his family.

Initially I thought all Indian men must be like MIM and I figured if he and I didn't end up working out in the long run I would continue dating Indians. Soon though, I realized it was not because he's Indian that makes him so wonderful, but because he's MIM. I really believe it comes back to his parents and the wonderful job they did raising him. Some cultural and religious influences definitely come into play too, like the respect he gives to others, his dedication to his studies, his avoidance of drugs and alcohol, and being devoted to his family to name only a few.

DSC_0289Because I met and dated MIM in college, I was able to meet a lot of Indian/Pakistani friends of his - both Muslim and Hindu - and get to know them well enough to say it is not the country or religion that makes a man! Many of the guys take part in all the things I just stated MIM does not. Many of them have started relationships with white women knowing ultimately they would have an arranged marriage. Yes, hearts have been broken! I have seen many white girls come and go. Dating an Indian is not a guarantee to life long happiness.

I don't know why some Indian men begin relationships with American women just to turn around and have an arranged marriage. The best answers would come from Indian men themselves and I would love to hear their point of view. Many of the guys I have come to know seem to dread their arranged marriage but ultimately do it for their parents. One of our friends who recently moved back to his home country said to me with such sadness, "Bhabhi, my parents have started looking for a girl for me to marry."  MIM has even stated numerous times that after experiencing love with me he can't imagine having an arranged marriage. "What if we don't have chemistry?" He asks; something he has never before thought of until after he experienced love.


Comments

  1. Jatt boy,
    The 10000 or so guys americans wipe off are die hard human scum. Guys like Ajmal kasab,
    Mohammad ghori, nadir shah, and all such fucked up human blood thirstin scum bags.

    Provided you those examples to just set the context for you to understand.

    Cant comment much about americans, but indians are royally fucked up in the brains too.

    And remember i am neither an apologist or a feminist. You can call me a right wing ultra if you like to.

      • India is regularly fighting for terrorism just like UK and US the difference is you don’t have your neighboring country like the one I shouldn’t mention but truly ALL THE NAMES WRITTEN ABOVE AND THE GUYS ARE NOT FROM INDIA AT ALL THEY INVADED THE COUNTRY AND ARE NOT FROM THE COUNTRY ITSELF BUT FROM THE NEIGHBOURING NATION OR GOOGLE THEM OUT BRO. HINDUISM AND THE RELIGIONS WHICH CAME INTO EXISTENCE FROM INDIA ARE ALWAYS TEACHING RELIGIONS LIKE “HINDUISM,SIKHISM,BUDDHISM,JAINISM” note:- not islam SO AMERICANS PLEASE DO A BIT RESEARCH FROM THE “AUTHORIZED” WEBSITE NOT FROM SOME FAKE WEBSITE MADE TO DISTRACT …….. HINDUISM WAS THE WORLDS FIRST RELIGION AND THE MOST EFFECTIVE RELIGION TO TEACH PEACE……. SO BRO. YOU CAN DIFFERENTIATE US FROM OUR SURNAMES “LIKE WHAT PERSON PRACTICES WHICH RELIGIONS” …….

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  3. Jatt boy,

    That was in response to your earlier statement about americans on a killin spree. I just wanted to set the context by quoting those names.

    What i meant is the people they kill are by and large just like the characters i mentioned in my previous post.

      • STFU POONJAB! YOU THE DIRTY DOG. TALKING ABOUT ORHER RACES. YOUR DIRTY RACIST ASS. YOUR COUNTRY IS EFFED UP AND YOY KNOW IT.
        I BET YOU CAN’T GET A WOMAN UNLESS IT’S A PROSTITUTE.
        POOF DISAPPEAR!

        • Sheena, I request you not to feed this Pakistani troll. I am sure he is pakistani going by the spelling of America he used. Even if he is not a pakistani then he is a national shame for my country. He has been bitten by a rabies infected dog or perhaps a pig. He has an voracious amount of appetite for pig’s crap!

          • Who is Pakistani you little ugly donkey?

            All Marathis, Central Indians and North Indians call America – Amrika. Thats how it is in Indian languages. I’m sure Pakis do the same because they speak similar languages. Stop crying because I’m telling the truth about these black and white dogs of Amrika!

      • Your spelling of America tells me you are a Paki pretending to be an Indian. I know Punjabis are there on the other side of the border. All you do is rake up crap and make the crap hit the ceiling fan. Thats what you are good at. You dont even know what you are barking for. You I-diot! may devils something hit you!

        • Hey JATT,
          WHY ARE YOU SO ANGRY?
          OH I KNOW WHY..
          YOU WEREN’T SMART ENOUGH TO GET A WORK VISA TO GET OVER HERE.
          THE ONLY WAY YOU CAN GET TO AN AMERICAN GIRL IS IN YOUR DREAMS IN YOUR LITTLE HUT.
          IS THAT WHY YOU ARE ON THIS PAGE?
          WHAT A JOKE

          • Ok Sheena its ok to have a view but before sharing words like little hut and in your dreams etc… I’ll impress you by th following points haha YOU KNOW THE WORLDS MOST RICH PERSONALITIES EVEN 3 UNDER TOP 5 AND MORE THAN 5 UNDER TOP 10 ARE INDIANS…. BEST SPORTSMAN ARE FROM INDIA I HOPE YOU DO WATCH OLYMPICS, BEST SCIENTISTS, BEST RESEARCHERS, HAVING THE WORLDS FIRST RELIGION, HAVING THE WORLDS LONGEST LIVING RELIGION IN WORLD, SCRIPTURES LIKE “GEETA”"VEDAS”"PURANS” ARE MORE ANCIENT THAN YOU CAN EVER IMAGINE …. AND UES I DO ADMITT I HAVE A GIRLFRIEND WHO IS FROM US AND YES SHE IS A WHITE AND I DONT KNOW ANY WAY THAT YOU CAN MEET HER BUT YES WE LOVE EACHOTHER AND I DONT LOVE HER AND DONT THINK HER THAT SHE IS MY TICKET TO US BUT INSTEAD WE GONNA SETTLE HERE FOR THE REST OF OUR LIFE MAY BE WE MIGHT HAVE OUR KID FIRST BEFORE OUR MARRIAGE HAHA AND YA THATS A GREAT GREAT NEWS FOR US AFTER 2 YEARS OF OUR RELATIONSHIP SOO PLEASE YOU JUST SHUT UP ALREADY!!!!!!
            PEACE

  4. Jatta, you are a screwed up leftist.

    Whos is a screwed up leftist? One who picks on easy targets and vents our his frustration . He is sadistic, , rabble rousing and eventually self destructive.

    He is so apologetic and nice to the mullahs but extremely hostile towards women. Forget about white women!!! They are way high in the pecking order of his hit list.

  5. I was missing this site!

    Now that we have analyzed Indian guys’ odd (and often times despicable) behavior, let’s analyze WHY these girls/women couldn’t see what their boyfriends were really up to in 2 or 3 years!! I’m very curious.

    • my theory of why women would stay in these relationships as long as they do and ignore important warning signs is because many of these women have commitment issues of their own that are at the subconscious level. I believe it is the same mentality that it is similar to the psychology of a woman who dates married men or men with girlfriends. I was one of these women at one time. I missed my ex-boyfriend from India today after being strong f

      • My previous post cut off….. I actually came on here to see what posts were up so that I could remind myself why I am better off now…without him. I remember reading my life away at blogs like this in fear of the unevitable. Some of the women are truely innocent victims and didnt see warning signs. For many of us it goes a little bit deeper than that. I had some commitment issues and maybe many others here do too. Its just a thought. Many of us have all the characteristics of a real committed relationship that is going somewhere, we know deep inside it is not, so it gives people with commitment issues a safe feeling that to precede is safe. Forever can be scary when you are dating someone. I know others may disagree with my analysis, but I think it may shed a little light into why we stay so long when we should run for our lives. i am willing to bet big money there are so many women who cut off relationships with indian men As SOON as the parents started to disrespect and meddle. I also bet tgose women are not on sites talking about it. So why are we? Something is wrong in our thought processes.

  6. Ok. Can we pls talk about the issue at hand, indian men dating white or other, women. I am of italian and polish decent. Ive met a few indian men and i am very impressed. Sure there are all different types of characters in any race but, i am drawn to indi says:

    Ok. Can we pls talk about the issue at hand, indian men dating white or other, women. I am of italian and polish decent. Ive met a few indian men and i am very impressed. Sure there are all different types of characters in any race but, i am drawn to indians because of their innate intelligence, wisdom, gentleness and respect towards others. I have dated a couple of indian men. One of them is definitely the love of my life so far. I am not sure if i am the love of his life. He seems to be apprehensive about me or our relationship. Whether its the indian/ american relationship challenge or the age difference, I’m not quite sure. If we are not meant for one another, i will choose to seek another indian. one of the reasons, is what i feel intuitively from the people and custom. My first and only marriage was with a mexican man. They are many similarities between the two cultures. The difference as i feel it, is the indian is on a different level of spirituality than the mexican. Of course, not all but generally speaking. Thank you for your time. Blessings to you and yours. Maria K. Tatar

    • Hi Maria
      I have been dating an Indian for about 2 months now and really care for him a great deal, however, my question is how do I know if he really like me or is just using me for sex? I would appreciate a reply
      Cari

  7. I have dated an Indian practicing Hindu man, for almost 2 yrs. I have yet to be introduced to his family… I now doubt that I ever will.
    I had thought that we had a great relationship, I am older than he is, but for us, it works. Or, so I thought before I happened to see his email inbox that he left open…subject said MARRIAGE PROPOSAL. My first thought was that he had inquired about the “perfect” marriage proposal for me….as we have talked about or should I say, used to talk about getting married all the time. I finally had to ask him and was surprised by his reply…..” I didn’t know how to tell you”. He went on to say that his parents who still reside in India, were sending him various marriage proposals for an arranged marriage…..to be honest, I broke down and cried. As did he. After a very long 4 hour conversation he told me at nights on his way home, (we live together in a home that we picked out together and he purchased) that he often cries after speaking with his parents knowing that he should honor their wishes but right now he just can see how he can. He says that he loves me can’t see his life without me and he will just continue to tell his parents when asked that none of the women that they have sent bio’s of would interest him. I know that I should just leave and try to make a new life for myself, but I really love the guy……fyi he has never dated an Indian woman and according to him, he never wanted to. He said parents do not care if their children are happy in India. Only that they can be proud of their marriage and success of their children. I just find that sad……..

    • Im an American woman who has been in a long distance relationship the past one year with a wonderful Indian man on the other side of the world. We have spent a lot of quality time together every day and we have cherished every second, after meeting each other in a game site when we weren’t even looking for anyone. At the beginning, he told me he would someday have to be in an arranged marriage, but I was in denial, not wanting to believe it and just wanting to not worry and to enjoy our time together, even though deep down, I believed him, though I know arranged ‘marriages’ are not fair because nobody knows your heart and mind better than you and its YOUR life! Im crying as I write this…We both tried to put up a ‘wall’ to block stronger feelings, but that didn’t work for very well-especially for me. I joked with him, saying i’ll try to put up my ‘wall’ and add steel, barbed wire, an electric fence and even a moat around it with alligators so no love will get through, but he soon took a wrecking ball to it and I began to love him as I tried, in vain, convincing myself I didn’t. Now, he is about to be in an arranged marriage, arranged by the families, after he and this girl had talked only like 3minutes, without any other communication before the agreement. Crazy and selfish of the parents, I think. But, even though my heart is broken, I don’t regret even 1 minute I spent with him and he doesn’t either. We helped each other, made each other better people and brought each other a lot of joy. Even though, being on the other side of the world, physically, he couldn’t be farther from me, at the same time, he couldn’t be closer to my heart. I am thankful for the love and laughter we shared.

      • Amanda, I am really lucky to have your wonderful company. What I had feared is coming true…! I am sorry for giving you so much pain, I never intended to do so. As I have always said, you were the first woman with whom I ever had such long conversations, good time and a memories to cherish forever. I know that you are a very intelligent, smart and very beautiful young lady. I can never ever forget you in this life. Please forgive me for breaking your heart. I know that you are very emotional girl and I just dont want you to get sad each and everyday. I am glad that we met by chance and that I am lucky enough to have your wonderful company. I will surely meet you someday when I visit America. You know whom to contact when you feel sad… Drop me a line whenever you feel so. Thank you so much for being with me when I was feeling low. You always listened to me when I was down. I am very sorry for snapping at you a few occasions, I was and will be very concerned about you and this made me act in such way. Although we never have a chance to continue this wonderful relationship, I hope I will be in your memories as a BEST (ONLINE) BOYFRIEND forever!!! Please dont cry!

  8. It all depends on the two people involved. I don’t think one can just generalize on anything. There will always be people who break the norm and others who abuse a trend!

    I have had Indian Men from India make fun of me because my name is “Radha” and put on stereotypes that I must be all this. But as I am raised and born in the USA, educated here as well I just ignore it! I have had plenty of guys that are raised here in the USA be just as warm and they could care less what my name is! So there is always two sides of a story.

    There are plenty of indians that come from strict families back home and college is a place to get away from all that. In doing so many choose to get involved in illicit activities, get involved in gangs, as well as explore sexual advances. So its all about choices made, and living with consequences.

    I have had many Indian friends get married to white or other nationalities and they are doing just fine! As long as the two people involved are happy does it matter?

  9. I found it quite interesting later part i mean.Wow story of Amanda and practical view of Radha specially appreciable.We often get confuse in our life but with time i realized that it can never be perfect. keep exploring and never to settle sometimes leaves us with both hand empty n somehow its about knowing ourselves.We may have to take chances.
    Life itself is a dream! Reiterates.Made by each moments passing by even while iam writing this,each of these moment being happy and content make our life a valued and hope for future make it worth living.

    Cheers Pals
    :)

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